do not make fun of white girls
do not make fun of girls of color
do not make fun of lgbtqia girls
do not make fun of fat girls
do not make fun of disabled girls
do not make fun of any girls
(▰˘◡˘▰) do not be a sexist shit and pretend you’re being funny
As a teacher, I give girls what I hope is a lot of attention. I don’t know if I give girls their fair share, but I aspire to, especially after noticing that boys are willing to use their greater share of teachers’ attention to get girls who they feel aren’t being quiet and docile enough punished. I have therefore acquired a reputation for “caring more about the girls.” This has had two marked results: Some straight boys have gotten more hostile toward me, and most girls have gotten more confident around me. This makes me think I’m doing something right.
Longer thoughts on how this phenomenon relates to sexual harassment in classrooms, if you’re interested: The girls figured out I won’t report them if they hit boys who are sexually harassing them, I’ll only report the boys. This led to an increase in how often girls got the last word and boys got smacked in my classes, and, also, to a DECREASE IN HOW OFTEN GIRLS GOT SEXUALLY HARASSED. The sexual harassers seem to have been depending on the sort of “equal blame” and “retaliation is never warranted” and “don’t hurt others’ feelings” perspectives so many schools try to instill in kids; the sexual harassers were usually the ones bringing me into the situation by saying, “Miss, she hit me! You should write her up!” Once they figured out I was only ever going to respond, “If you don’t treat girls like that, they won’t hit you,” the girls got more confident and the sexual harassers largely shut the fuck up.
In schools, fighting against sexual harassment is often punished exactly the same as, or more severely than, sexual harassment — a lot of discipline codes make no distinction between violence and violence in self-defence, and violence is ALWAYS the highest level of disciplinary infraction, whereas verbal sexual harassment rarely is. Sexual harassers, at least in the schools I’ve been in, rely heavily on GETTING GIRLS IN TROUBLE WITH HIGHER AUTHORITIES as a strategy of harassment — creating an external punishment that penalises girls for and therefore discourages girls from fighting back. Sexual harassers are willing to use their greater share of floorspace to ask to get girls who won’t date them punished. By and large, teachers do punish those girls when they swear or hit. Schools condition girls to ignore sexual harassment by punishing them when they speak up or fight back instead.
Once the sexual harassers in my classes understood that girls wouldn’t be punished for rejecting them, they backed off around me. And there started to be a flip in what conversations I get called into — girls are telling me when boys are being nasty (too loud and dominant), instead of boys telling me when girls are being uncooperative (louder and more dominant than boys think they should be).
reblogging again for the wonderful commentary.
WHY DIDN’T I HAVE TEACHERS LIKE THIS(via lizziegoneastray)
#SafetyTipsForLadies Stay in the womb. It’s the last time you’ll have full personhood anyway.
This is my most retweeted tweet ever.
I just wanted to have a moment of appreciation for my favorite female-led non-romantic comedies
Can we appreciate how feminist all these movies are in completely different ways?
Pitch Perfect and Bridesmaids proved that yes, a comedy with an all girl cast is possible, and both guys and girls will fucking love it
Easy A is filled to the brim with slut-shaming and how fucking ridiculous it is
She’s the Man has the traditional type of plot of a tomboy girl succeeding in a male-dominated area (typical does not mean bad)
Mean Girls is all about the cattiness of girls and how that shit has got to stop. (“You’ve got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores”)
And Legally Blonde is a personal favorite. Beauty does not mean ignorance, femininity does not mean inferiority. You can be kick-ass, intelligent and feminist even when you’re wearing pink. This kinda message seems a little harder to come by when it comes to “empowered women” in the media.
Basically, these movies are progressive gold
Male privilege is oversexualizing a normal part of a woman’s body to the point where she is punished for wearing a pair of shorts at school. They are legs and they get me where I need to go. I don’t “display” them for your enjoyment, I just made a mistake by assuming that partially exposing an appropriate part of my body on an 80 degree day wouldn’t land me in detention.
THE FUCKING TRUTH BEHIND THIS HURTS.
oh my god yes. finally I have the words for everyone who has ever accused me of being a ‘man hater’ or told me that men can’t be feminists.
- be thin
- give birth
- cook for you
- have long hair
- wear makeup
- have sex with you
- be feminine
- be graceful
- be fashionable
- wear pink
- love men
- be the media’s idea of perfection
- listen to your bullshit
- have a vagina
This is very true, but it’s important to remember that if a woman is feminine, graceful, shaves, diets, wears make up, or does any of these things in the list, it doesn’t make her a slave to patriarchy or any less of a feminist than you.